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Wednesday, September 09, 2009

The Truth About Lies


Lies come in all sizes and flavors. There are the white lies that serve as a social lubricant. Methinks we’d probably suffer without those. Brutal honesty is not always necessary nor sometimes even desirable.

Then again, there are the lies that do great damage. The worst lies of all come with “time-delay” fuses. We come to believe and trust in the words of others. We come to rely on those words or the promises made. We sometimes build our lives, craft our hopes and weave our expectations on words that seemingly mean so much...until the Lie detonates. The lie revealed after dreams are dreamt, after hope is birthed and plans are mapped, is the most treacherous lie of all. To learn that something we relied on, trusted, placed great faith upon was “just” a lie, is to die a gruesome death.

The lie that is revealed after honest reliance on the lie is the most damaging lie of all. It is a weapon of mass destruction that wounds not only the deceived believer but a great many innocent bystanders, too.

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Gratuitous Non-Sequitor:

I'm enjoying a glass of "Camaronazo"

(jugo de tomate y camaron)

It's picante!

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BONUS Gratuitous Non-Sequitor:

Death Stands Above Me

DEATH stands above me, whispering low
I know not what into my ear:
Of his strange language all I know
Is, there is not a word of fear.

Walter Savage Landor

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16 Comments:

Blogger Fiona said...

So, so true, Jonas.

And then there are those who continue to lie about having lied.

The gravity of some lies does have the power to destroy. I've been lied to on a monstrous level before and it did lead to a huge level of mistrust going forward. But you have to believe again in the possibilities of truth being out there, or else the liar destroys you forever.

Wed Sep 09, 11:12:00 PM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Ah, my wise Fiona. It's so good to "hear" your voice again!

Wed Sep 09, 11:15:00 PM  
Blogger Ponita in Real Life said...

Ah yes... the lies, the deceit, the untruths... all things that have come to pass. Lessons learned and life rebuilt... and the ability to trust restored. A tenacity of spirit that has built strength and hopefulness in spite of the hurts experienced... that allows vulnerability to still exist without playing the victim... to feel and give without reservation.

Thu Sep 10, 12:59:00 AM  
Blogger secret agent woman said...

Sometimes the lie is unknown even to the liar. When someone lives a lie, it is all the more convincing because it has been bought by the one telling it.

Thu Sep 10, 06:14:00 AM  
Blogger deb said...

The worst lies are the ones we tell ourselves.

Thu Sep 10, 07:19:00 AM  
Blogger Cheesy said...

Mixing that with a beer? Sorry shrimp and tom just makes me wince~ No lie!

Thu Sep 10, 08:08:00 AM  
Blogger Charmed said...

Wow, really makes you think.

Fri Sep 11, 09:28:00 AM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Ah, yes, it ain't easy being human. And you won't get an argument from me regarding the importance of Knowing Oneself.

Fri Sep 11, 01:15:00 PM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Sorry, Queen Cheese, I was drinkin' it straight. I guess I was in a Tex-Mex state of mind.

It's transitory.

Welcome, Charmed! Glad I was able to intrigue the brain.

Fri Sep 11, 01:18:00 PM  
Blogger Christella said...

The sorry part about lies is the fact that too many choose to believe the lie and make the truth the lie.

Fri Sep 11, 01:51:00 PM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Yes, Christella, that's also an astute observation about the current body politic.

Fri Sep 11, 08:35:00 PM  
Blogger Ponita in Real Life said...

I know this comment is about 2 2/3 years late, but I just read that post ("Gnothi Seauton", after clicking the link in your comment above) but perhaps the reason it is such a huge and seemingly overwhelming endeavour to know one's self is because we are in a constant state of evolution. Each and every moment is a new experience that changes our essence, our being, that shapes and reshapes who and what we are, so being able to pin down just who we are will be a never-ending journey.

And perhaps it is that never-ending journey that some of us undertake that makes us more aware, more in tune, with who and what we are, even though that who and that what are in a constant state of flux.

Makes the journey interesting, to say the least, when what is around the next bend isn't ever a sure thing.

And because so many people are not willing to invest that time and effort in themselves (because, let's face it, owning up to your shortcomings and faults is never an easy thing), many choose to make up things (that'd be those lies) to mold life into what they 'think' it should be... without being responsible for their part of reality.

Fri Sep 11, 11:18:00 PM  
Blogger Jonas said...

Yer a wise woman, Ponita.

Sat Sep 12, 12:10:00 AM  
Blogger Ponita in Real Life said...

I don't know about wise, Jonas, but I've spent some time looking inside and outside, at myself and others, and have noticed a few things, is all.

Sat Sep 12, 12:17:00 AM  
Blogger Woman in a Window said...

Jonas, it was particularly difficult for me to read your post on lies. I'm the bearer of lies of late and it is not easy to be responsible either. However, this is the weight that we liers must bear. Shut-em-up and wear it, I must. I'm sorry for the hurt, yours and his, the one I've hurt. Sometimes life is not just good and bad, right and wrong, but many gradations of each.
xo
erin

Sun Sep 13, 09:08:00 AM  
Blogger L'uragano (The Hurricane) said...

I abhor liars....and they are all around me. Sometimes the lie so heavy, the liar believes it real...

Tue Sep 15, 09:45:00 PM  

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