Pondering
No telling what thoughts will come to mind as illumined reality fades to dark illusion.
Sampling:
Surveys of prison inmates indicate that thieves are generally highly optimistic individuals. I dunno. I’m still trying to wrap my mind around that.
And this:
If it holds true that we need love the most when we’re the least lovable, then how do I reconcile that with another truism: that one must first be lovable to be loved?
And I’m still kinda intrigued by the way my jukebox sub-conscious offers tunes that seep into my guts and marrow and (in fairly short order) reveal Truths. And how, when I contemplate Truths, I see how obvious they were from the very start, but I was blind. Blinded by dreams and desires. It’s far more comfortable to filter one’s eyes through hopes, is it not? Truths are elusive simply because we truly do not wish to behold them.
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posted by Jonas | 1/31/2009 11:13:00 PM
14 Comments:
"If it holds true that we need love the most when we’re the least lovable, then how do I reconcile that with another truism: that one must be most lovable to be loved?"
Your truism is not a truism. It is a belief which I would challenge and say it is false. We don't need to be lovable to be loved, we just need to be.
I've thought about this a lot Jonas, I have a few issues with being worthy, being unworthy, being lovable, shall I go on? I realized awhile ago that we don't need to do anything to be loved, we just need to be human. Although even the being human part I would argue with because I love my animals as well, just as they are.
More importantly though is loving yourself, accepting yourself as you are, realizing that you were born okay, you are okay and you will die okay. We just are. We don't need to be a certain way.
As for the thieves, I can see them a optimistic individuals, otherwise they'd never try to break and enter. If they were realists, they'd realize that sooner or later they'd be caught.
It's easy for me to see other's blindness to themselves, but not so easy for me to accept that I have no idea who I am, or how other's see me.
Because I know this, but don't accept this I assume the worst.
But not really,
I don't know
is it obvious
moment to moment it changes and the one constant is the need for affirmation that I exist, that I'm worth and effort.
Lovable? It's hard to know anything.
ever hear the phrase happy little moron? excuse me for politocosocio 'incorrectness' one should not name such things however the way you put it is hilarious. theives may also be optimistic while they are in prison because in there, a thief probably has the least to worry about in terms of personal safety. not so for other types of criminal minds or unlucky souls.
ah but with love there is no perfect time or place for it and no perfect way of being for it, just ways of expressing it, or not as per choice. truths can be universal or personal i guess, or maybe those are both the same thing. i cant wrap my mind around that either. but being blinded by dreams and desires is a fairly universal experience. it may be the whole reason we include spirituality in our scope of capabilities. yes there is a point where truths may need to lie buried left undisturbed interned. but when i get real close to the edge just before getting swallowed by this 'painful truth' whatever it is for the moment, i seem to notice theres a really thin skin between knowing and not knowing truth. so i come to the conclusion that life is a rainbow ratbag of reinvention and thats the real truth ha ha.
great thoughtful piece jonas
All you need is to just be you... be comfortable in your own skin.... and one day, someone will come to you and love you for who you are... not for any other reason, but just for who you are... and that is the way it should be.
"Truths are elusive simply because we truly do not wish to behold them."
So . very . true. I'm in the midst of denial as we speak. And I'm loving every moment of it. :)
there is no "truth." it's all an illusion.
I think optimism/pessimism are characterological. If it takes a certain degree of optimism to engage in theft (ecause why risk it if you don't think you can get away with it?), then being in prison doesn't change that.
As for the other idea that you have to be lovable to be loved, I don't know about that. There are plenty of folks who are loved by someone who don't behave in a particularly lovable way. But you certianly up your chances of being loved by loving others.
What may be your truth may be illusory to someone else and vice versa. Truth can be difficult to define.
Some say 'Truth is beauty; beauty is truth.' Others say 'The truth will set you free.'
I agree with Deb on this one - we just need to be. We just need to be true to ourselves. It is then that we are at our most lovable.
You got me thinking with this one, Jonas!
What an eclectic group of commentors and comments! Fertile ground for much discussion. I wish I could invite you all to join me near the warmth of a bonfire, passing around a jug of wine (or two) and musing.
I'd like that.
I just realized I wrote my previous comment to eight beautiful women. I'm feeling very manly right now (it'll pass...it's hormones).
Jonas, you are the best kind of manly man... with a sensitive, introspective side.
Hopefully it will not pass too quickly. It would be lovely for all of us to join you for a sip by the fire to chat.
I don't know how much talking I'd do (I'm a much better listener than talker), but I'd graciously accept a glass or two (or maybe even five - its been too long) of wine.
Anna, you can have my share of wine. Can't abide the stuff, myself.
I think a nice Baileys on the rocks would do just fine.
Hi, Jonas....
Who's "truism" is that? That one must be "loveable" in order to be loved?
I don't buy that one - it's not born out fruit in my life. What HAS been true is this:
We can't give away what we don't have. Or, we reap what we sow. So then...we receive love, as we give love.
I think where we get tripped up sometimes, is that we "expect" it (the love) or 'desire' it to come from a particular source...rather than just openly receiving all of the love that is pouring out towards us at any given moment.
Then, it would be contrary to my current state of mind if I didn't add this: There is a LOVE that comes from God - that has nothing to do with whether or not we deserve it, or earn it, or are considered 'loveable'. God loves us. It just is :)
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