At Some Point(s)...
At some point(s) in our lives we will meet someone, some extraordinary someone who is possessed of a loving heart, a kind soul and (at least) a few graces. Well, most of us will...
The question then...the ONLY question then...is what will we make of that discovery?
Too often, we continue shopping for “someone better.”
Too often, we’ll opt for glitz and glitter, infatuation and pizzazz, testosterone or some other chemical-high, comfort or security, rather than the salt and tears that come hand-in-hand with commitment and sacrifice.
Too often, we fail to appreciate.
Too often, we throw away the very hearts that cherished us the most.
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posted by Jonas | 10/16/2008 03:49:00 PM
17 Comments:
Lovely post. I can attest to it being true. But I finally learned that lesson.
I met met someone recently. He didn't exactly come in the package I had always imagined for myself, but I finally opened my eyes and saw the real deal inside, and I couldn't let him go. I found the perfect man. He's wonderful!
Ah, Lady C.! I've been following your story. I wish you both every happiness.
May I ask: to what do you speak? Regrets? Or just wisdom from living? An observation or a downfall? Just asking...
My Tempest, I'd file this post in the "life's lessons learned" folder. Both an observation and a downfall.
Yes, may you come to the place of knowing that shopping can be eternal exercise in futility, an excuse in not being here in this present moment, this intimate moment.
It's only fear and you are bigger than that. Expand, get bigger, and think on what you could be, almost be, letting pass.
If only those blasted burning bushes would appear more often, lightning bolts from the heavens clearly marking the way.
Until then, trust your gut. That's what I hear all the Myers-Briggs "N's" like to do.
Trust. Then trust it more. There ya go.
Oh, Bodie, I've come to know (all too well) all the possible exercises in futility...
(Say, shouln't you be listening to the Cowboy Junkies or sumptin'?)
sigh~ So much truth to this post my friend.
Now go forth and open your eyes. Go aheaad... take a chance.
I think we're all guilty of not seeing the true value in people not just in a romantic sense but in a friendship sense. We often realise when it's too late. I hope that I have learned from my previous mistakes but sometimes I wonder....
Such a well-written post.
Having been on both sides, not staying with someone or staying too long, I now know that I have to listen to my inner voice. Lessons learned, indeed.
It's taken over 30 years but that little voice is now well heeded.
Yes, Jonas, you are so right.
My husband and I would have never received the chance at love and happiness if I had kept my "standards". He was frought with complications and trials when he walked into my life. Most would have never taken the risk, but I am so glad I did. No matter how much it cost me...
Now, I fear that anyone that I may meet will be overlooked because I had a wonderful love...somehow, I wonder if I am one of those creatures that loves only once in life...
It appears that I've touched on a human experience as witnessed by a variety of eyes...
Thank you all for dropping by and sharing a thought or two. I'm grateful.
I agree that we often fail to appreciate perfectly lovely people and end up looking for greener pastures. However, is it asking too much to want someone who is perfectly lovely AND who rocks your world? Does it have to be one or the other? Is it wrong to not settle for something that is anything less than amazing?
You raise a good point, Anna.
Say, shouldn't YOU be giving birth to twins right about now!?!
To true, and well said. Even when we know how amazing it is, we can still at times turn away and wonder what sort of fertalizer they use on the grass next door! Thanks for the reminder.
I know a couple of women who have met such men; yet, they failed to see that a love like that is hard to come by and they have ended the relationships bcuz they feel they did not connect or they felt challenged enough - different strokes for different folks I guess. But in the end it turns out to be too bad because they don't give it a chance.
Guilty as charged. There are mitigating circumstances, as there always are. Too many disappointments broke my heart and the pieces might have stuck back together, but it's a botched-up job and the heart just doesn't work the way it used too. I'm okay with it, and I stay hidden away, so as not to give anyone any ideas. And I don't believe in such a thing as greener pastures anymore. Still, God help me, I never meant to hurt anyone.
Love is a minefield, no?
Most of us bear wounds, scars or missing pieces...
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